February 21, 2010 marks the 12 year date of our marriage! And praise be to God that we are able to recognize this day with great joy!!!
And although we have now been married 12 years, Rob and I like to throw folks off by telling them it has been the best 3 years (not 12) of our lives. Someday there might be a long story about all that. But for now, I’ll just leave the focus of this post as a celebration of God’s work in our lives and the triumph He has graced us with. When Rob and I finally prayed (after 8 years!) that God would allow our marriage and the attitude of our hearts to bring Him honor, He has truly done victorious things in our relationship!!
So don’t be fooled with the picture below, as it appears to be capturing a young couple deeply in love on their wedding day. Because even though it is a candid photo and the smiles are most sincere, the expression of happiness was not prompted by deep affections for one another. Instead it was a shared sense of humor that we were both appreciating at that moment : ) It had been pointed out that it was our combined families who seemed to be frequenting the open bar at our reception the most (and not the guests). Rob and I laughed and Rob’s sister took the picture.
But now, 12 years later, we do have a sincere affection and love for one another. So I decided to take that old wedding day picture and embellishe it a little. I felt it necessary to add some extra design work and a great verse from the Bible because now, it is true, that ‘I have found the one my heart loves.’ It is sad that it took so many years to find that, but we are thankful that God is still at work in our lives and there are so many wonderful years ahead of us to look forward to!
The Bible has been for us (and is!) the greatest source of wisdom in making a marriage work and on how to love one another. But I wanted to also share these great quotes that I came across many years back that have much insight to offer as well.
*”If you treat the wrong person like the right person, you could well end up having married the right person after all. On the other hand, if you marry the right person and treat that person wrong, you certainly will have ended up marrying the wrong person. I also know that it is far more important to be the right kind of person than it is to marry the right person. In short, whether you married the right or wrong person is primarily up to you.” Zig Ziglar
*The Beauty of Love: The question is asked, “Is there anything more beautiful in life than a young couple clasping hands and pure hearts in the path of marriage? Can there be anything more beautiful than young love?” And the answer is given. “Yes, there is a more beautiful thing. It is the spectacle of an old man and an old woman finishing their journey together on that path. Their hands are gnarled, but still clasped; their faces are seamed, but still radiant; their hearts are physically bowed and tired, but still strong with love and devotion for one another. Yes, there is a more beautiful thing than young love. Old love.” Unknown
*The divorce rate would be lower if instead of marrying for better or worse people would marry for good. Ruby Dee
*What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility. Leo Tolstoy
*It is not your love that sustains the marriage, but from now on, the marriage that sustains your love.
Dietrich Bonhoeffer, writing to a young bride and groom from his prison cell in Nazi Germany in 1943
*All those “and they lived happily ever after” fairy tale endings need to be changed to “and they began the very hard work of making their marriages happy.” Linda Miles, coauthor of The New Marriage
*Marriage, families, all relationships are more a process of learning the dance rather than finding the right dancer. Paul Pearsall
*They say it takes a village to raise a child. That may be the case, but the truth is that it takes a lot of solid, stable marriages to create a village. Diane Sollee, smartmarriages.com
*One advantage of marriage, it seems to me, is that when you fall out of love with each other, it keeps you together until maybe you fall in again. Judith Viorst
*If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, it’s because they take better care of it. Cecil Selig
*Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads, which sew people together through the years. Simone Signoret
*Loves seems the swiftest, but it is the slowest of all growths. No man or woman really knows what perfect love is until they have been married a quarter of a century. Mark Twain
*Love one another and you will be happy. It’s as simple and as difficult as that. Michael Leunig
*Love is a feeling, Marriage is a contract, and a Relationship is work. Lori Gordon
*A magnificent marriage begins not with knowing one another but with knowing God. Gary Ricucci
*Any fool can have a trophy wife. It takes a real man to have a trophy marriage. Diane Sollee
*Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get, it’s what you are expected to give – which is everything. Source Unknown
*Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry. Tom Mullen